20 things I learned in my 20s

Confessional spoiler alert... today is the last day of my twenties...

For the past few months, I have been dreading the big three-oh. I saw it as something bad and the fact that I am that much closer to forty... to a mid life crisis. I have been trying to savor the last few months of my twenties, because, well, the majority of the 30 years that I have been on this earth has been spent doing what society has always taught us to do: go to school, marry, & have children. And yes, I am happy, but it seems like I am having a hard time trying to get into the whole "I'm thirty" mentality.

One reason I could be dreading the whole number change, is the fact that I still haven't mastered the whole self-confidence and self-awareness concepts. In some ways, I still can have that whole HS mentality, even through my twenties. BUT that's ok. Because your twenties are supposed to be the party years. The college years. The I'm making mistake after mistake, and I'm fucking up, but that's ok, cause I'm learning from those mistakes.

It seems like people in their thirties finally have their shit together, and I'm ready for that phase. To finally have my ducks in a row and to be blissfully happy, overwhelmed, and stressed at the same time.

But before my thirties actually begin... let's talk about the few things I have learned in my twenties...

one. Stop trying to please everyone. 

Just stop... because in truth, you can't. The only one you can please is yourself.

two. Don't always try to be the leader. 

three. Life isn't always about money. 

Sure money pays the bills, the huge student loan payments,  and can get some pretty amazing things, but it's not just about money.

four. You don't need to be popular or have a lot of friends to be happy. 

All you need is five people that you can call, talk to, or be with.

five. Sometimes you just outgrow people.

five. Everyone has a right to their own opinion. 

Some opinions you may not like, and feel strongly against, but you have to remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. No matter how wrong they may sound. 

six. Pick your battles. 

Especially with children. And on Facebook. 

seven. Life blows sometimes...

Just roll with it. 

eight. Weekly mani/pedi are just not worth the money.

nine. But weekly massages are.

ten. Always take your makeup off before bed. 

eleven. Moisturize moisturize moisturize.

twelve. Self acceptance is a hard thing to achieve. 

But it's something that everyone needs to strive for. 

thirteen. Mistakes are a part of life and happen often. 

You learn from then. and It's ok. Unless someone dies. Then you fucked up somewhere. 

fourteen. Don't be trashy.

If you are going to go to the bar for a girl's night, don't get shit-faced. Know your limits. And know what you are drinking. Don't have a one-night stand and wake up the next day wondering what the hell you did. Protect yourself. 

fifteen. Creativity is key. 

So is individuality and being authentic.

Unless you are in the military.

sixteen. The 3 topics never to bring up in casual conversation are religion, politics, and abortion. 

Just don't do it. And if you do- remember number five...

seventeen.. Buy the shoes. 

Always.

eighteen. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable. 

If you love someone, tell them. If you screwed up, and hurt someone's feelings, then tell them you are sorry. 

nineteen. Stop making excuses. 

Don't place the blame somewhere else.

twenty. Once you confront a fear, then it no longer holds power over you.

Try new things. Ask that guy/girl for their phone number. Take a trip to an exotic place. 

Just don't touch a spider. That's a fear that doesn't need to be confronted.

I have a feeling that thirty may not be as bad as I thought... maybe it will be awesome. I mean, wasn't it Jennifer Garner who said "Thirty and Flirty and Thriving"? 

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